Last week, I watched a video. I don’t often feel invested in videos, nor do I often watch them, I like real people. But this one drew me in as she talked about family goals, dreams, and desires. It was so thought-provoking.
She asked, “why aren’t we planning for our family’s success the same way we plan for our business success?” Really which is more important?
She asked, Why are we doing what we are doing with our kids, husbands, wives, extended families, etc? What is our purpose? How do we grow our children into the people we want them to be?
Do we give them every opportunity in the world? Push them into all the sports, music programs, dance classes, gymnastics, rodeo (this would be the ranch life popping out here), and what have you’s that their little bodies can take so they can figure out who they truly want to be?
Do we choose select options that really adhere to what our family mission really is? And hope that by establishing purpose and boundaries our children will be teenagers and adults who know what they are about?
One other statement that really reeled me in was this truth,
“The road to independence begins at 3, not 13. It matters now.”
And so, I was left worrying about who my kids are going to be in 10 years. Will my precious and feisty 5 year old even like me when she is 15?
But then, this week I read this, and it struck me – this is what I want for my kids:
For the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel, has said: “You will be delivered by returning and resting; your strength will lie in quiet confidence…” – Isaiah 30:15
“Quiet confidence” those words really speak to who I want to be, and who I want my children to be. Do you know people who have that? People that have this thing, this something, that allows them to do life in such a way that you see them and say, “She is just so…” and then you lack the word to finish the sentence because you just can’t seem to label it.
It is quiet confidence.
It isn’t over-bearing, I’m going to win it all confidence. It isn’t pride that comes from being outrageously beautiful (or just fitting into that perfect pair of jeans).
It IS something untouchable, something that the French call “Je ne sais quoi” – meaning something that just can’t quite be adequately described.
Friends that is “quiet confidence.”
This is what I want for my children. A source of strength that doesn’t come from what they do or how someone feels about them or even what I tell them. I want them to KNOW and REST in the truth that they are loved, created by, and filled by the God who is the giver of all good and perfect things. When they KNOW this, when they are SURE of this, when they LIVE in this, then they too will have that same je ne sais quoi.
And the good news friends, is that I can quit worrying right now, because all I have to do is show them Jesus, and then let Him do the rest. Because that “quiet confidence” can’t be taught it can only be found, and they aren’t going to find it in me or in themselves. They are going to find it in Him.
In answer to the previous question about what we are doing with our kids, the truth is we only HAVE to give our children one opportunity, the opportunity to find their own quiet confidence. Everything else is just doesn’t matter quite as much.